What was the best compliment you’ve received?

When all seemed lost…”You are doing a great job raising your kids.”

That’s what all moms want to hear when we are struggling.

Being a mom is the hardest job ever! I’m not just a mom. I’m a stay at home mom. I do everything. I cook from scratch. I do all the laundry. I keep the house clean. I paint almost everyday. I homeschool my two eldest kids. My family is never hungry. Never dirty. Never…

But some days I feel like I’m failing. Like I’m screwing up their lives. That I’m not doing enough for them.

And when moms begin to spiral down that black hole, there’s only one thing that helps bring us out of it. Some stranger telling us that “we are doing a great job!” Or “hold in there mama, you are doing great.” Not a family member or a friend. But someone who doesn’t know anything about us. Because they see our hard work, without knowing anything.

Many a times I’ve begun to spiral and I’ve been blessed to be told I’m doing great. It helps so much.

So if you see a mom struggling today. Take a short moment in your day, and stop and tell her she is doing a great job. Maybe she doesn’t desperately need it right there. But eventually in the future when she needs to hear it, she will remember your words. One way of another your words will help her. But to a mom that is indeed struggling, and spiraling, you will really bless her. Don’t feel bad if she starts to tear up randomly. Because all of her self doubt and worry of not being a good mom, will be swept away with the simple phrase.

“You are doing a good job, mama.”

(I’m tearing up remembering when it happened to me.)