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Again…Why One?

What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

I have several questions. That I’m sure people can relate.

#1: How are you feeling?

I wish this question would be changed to how’s your day going? Or did you accomplish what you wanted today?

Something like that. Because if you ask me how I’m feeling my answer is always going to be I’m tired. I think I’m going to be tired for at least another ten years. But the problem is; is I answer by saying I’m tired and people get annoyed by my answer. So if you want a different answer ask me a different question.

Family is different. They can ask me how I’m doing. Because they know everything. Haha!

#2 What’s for dinner?

It’s not that I hate this question. But when I’m in the point of my cycle where I don’t want to choose, this question bothers me. Especially when I’ve already asked my husband what he wants and he doesn’t give me an answer. Hopefully as my kids grow up they will just ask, “Hey mom, can we have pizza for dinner?” Or “Can we have lasagna?” I’ve never been good at choosing. So excited for that day!!

#3 Do you really want to do that? Or, Choose that? Or, Do you think that is a good decision?

I know why this is asked. It is to help people learn. Someone questions you, so that you can really think about what you are doing. But for me this question always causes the person to question themselves. Even if their decision is good or right; they still doubt themselves. Then they ask that question, “What do you think?” And the other person replies, “I don’t know. You decide. It’s your decision.” That’s the part that irks me. If you are going to question me and make me second guess myself; then when I ask you for your opinion you better have a compelling response. If not, stay quiet. Let me figure things out through my own failure or success.

#4 Does this dress make me look big?

This question just bugs me. Because I know, not all women, but there are those few that ask this question fishing for a fight, compliments, vain, etc. But honestly you need to trust your own idea of what you like. Because at least for me, if you don’t absolutely love what you try on, you will never wear it. If you are worried about looking big, even before you buy it; then you will be constantly worried about that, and never give it a chance out of your closet.

And if I ask this question it’s to my husband or my mom. Because they give me honest answers. My body is a strange portion. I have big shoulders, long torso, and long legs. So if dresses are made for a short person then it’s going to look like I’m wearing a long shirt or that I lost half of my dress. So I ask for their opinion to know if it looks okay. I want them to confirm my thoughts.

Unless it’s family I cannot answer this question. Because I will answer honestly. And I never know if they are asking for the honest truth or for me to make them feel good.

That’s why I love thrift stores or Ross so much. Because if it’s not quite right, when I get home, then I’m not out too much. But I usually keep it and wear it at home. Or if I love it enough, I’ll hold onto it for my daughters. Everything comes back into style. Maybe by the time they are my size, they will like digging through my closet.

I guess there wasn’t many. But I’m sure there are more.

But like everything. As long as people are asking out of care or concern, all is fine.

Easy!

What are three objects you couldn’t live without?

Husband, kids, meat! Haha 😂

No let me think. Those would be my answers, but let me try and find three more personal items that I own.

1: My trusty chubby red. It’s my medium sized Dutch oven. I named it chubby red. I have a Bug red and a baby red. But the middle one can do various things.

2:My photos. All of them. I want to in the future do those picture books. I can always paint if I want art, but photos of my kids and memories can’t be replaced.

3: A collection of things. Mr. Pinky, my wedding dress, my ring, my locket, those type things. Because you can replace many things. But my wedding dress was discontinued, so I want to have the option to pass it down to one of my daughters. My ring could be passed down to my son’s wife if he wants. My locket was from my husband; it holds pictures of my kiddos. It could be passed down; maybe become an heirloom. Wright girls would wear it. Mr. Pinky….because he is so old already, I want to see how old he can become. He’s currently 30 years old!

This was fun. I sat in the couch looking into the house trying to discern what was important to me. I like my choices. But also my first choices too.

Enjoy your…Monday. Had to check. Haha!

Life…

If you think your life is chaotic…

I am a mom to two high energy kids. 6 & almost 3. And now I’m a mother to a 2 month old.

I cook from scratch for every meal, for every day.

I’m doing at least 3 loads of laundry a day to keep up!

My husband’s schedule shifts from day shifts to night shifts; that I don’t know what today is even. Oh, Sunday. I had to look.

But tack on top of this that we are trying to sell our house. So I have to keep the house showing ready. With those two rambunctious kids it’s almost impossible.

And we have our first showing tomorrow…at least I’ve been trying to stay on top of the house so it should be easy.

But if you are feeling overwhelmed today; just know there might be someone with a more chaotic life than yours. Relax and enjoy yourself if you have the time.

I do not. At least not until bedtime.

Have a great Sunday!

(Happy I know what day it is!)

Being Awesome

What were your parents doing at your age?

My mom was being a super mom.

She was working full time, but also was taking care of her kids. She was doing so much; that I now know and totally understand what it is to be a mom.

Her life was constant. Constantly moving. Constantly taking care of her family. To me that is what a superhero looks like!!

I Know!

You get some great, amazingly fantastic news. What’s the first thing you do?

I call my mommy!!

Because naturally if I’m getting that amazing news my husband is with me. So the first person is mama!

Crazy, is I read the question and instantly knew the answer!

I love you Mama! So very very much!! Excited to see you soon!

❤️

Nope.

Describe your most ideal day from beginning to end.

I started writing my answer just before this. You know, getting sleep and my kiddos listening to me 100%. But I deleted it. It’s gone.

Because as much as I would love to have those things, it’s not going to happen right now. And I don’t want to be frustrated or annoyed with my life. Sometimes venting too much can lead to more negativity in life. And that’s what that original post would have been; me venting and wishing for a different life. However, my life is what it is. I have stubborn headstrong children. I have a hard working husband who has to go to a job a various hours that he hates. And I spend all my time taking care of my family.

It’s a good life. I don’t want to list everything that I wish for, because then I’ll just be disappointed when that day never comes.

So for a realistic answer. I want a day where all my loved ones are well and healthy; and they all accomplish what they wanted to do that day.

Have a great Wednesday. If today is not what you wanted; there is always tomorrow. ❤️

Everything!

What’s your favorite thing to cook?

Since on my journey of making everything from scratch, I’ve found I love to make anything and everything. Baked goods, breads, Mexican foods, Chinese foods, Italian foods, Pizza, American foods, desserts, etc.

I make bread about twice a week. I make a baked good about once every two weeks. I make pizza once every two weeks. I make something chocolatey once a month; which involves making my own chocolate. I tend to cycle through all the types of foods. American, Italian, Mexican, etc. but u tend to make lots of Mexican foods because they are delicious!

Then comes a week where I’m not inspired to cook. I have many many recipes. More than you can imagine; but during this week none of them sound good to me. So ask the husband what he is craving. He gives his idea and I go on a hunt for a feasible recipe. So we try new things for a week; some are good and some are terrible. But it helps me to kickstart my drive to cook again.

I don’t really have a favorite thing to cook. I would say I love to cook foods that my husband is craving. I love to cook foods that my kiddos will devour without complaining. I love to make chocolate things just for me; but I always have to end up sharing.

It’s always a bummer to put in all that hard work of trying something new and it’s a flop. Because one you wasted your time, but you also have to make something else for dinner.

But I will say that bread is super easy now. Chocolate is super easy. Enchiladas is easy. Mac n cheese is easy. Pizza. Pudding. Pancakes. Etc. I could list many more. The ones I mentioned, I make either once a week or two-four times a week.

I even told my mother-in-law that it seemed like my day is spent making food, eating food, feeding a one month old, and cleaning up. Very true. Ha!

I hope your Sunday is filled with delicious foods.

Also. I’ve been making lots of hearty soups. My mother-in-law has been craving soups. Easiest meal ever! One pot! Yum!

This picture is kind of random, but mother-in-law asked if I had any idea to rearrange their living room. This was what I came up with. The colors aren’t exactly right but just so that she can show her husband the idea. Visual is always helpful when asking for a budget. Haha 😂

Hopefully it works for them. They have most of the furniture already.

This one is hard.

What’s the thing you’re most scared to do? What would it take to get you to do it?

I don’t know if I could pick just one thing.

I’m terrified to “swim with sharks”. You know those cages you can be put into to have sharks swimming around you…Nope! Nope, nope, nope! But I have no idea what it would take to get me to do it. Because I have the fear that if I was ever tricked into one of those, I would pass out from fear and my leg would slowly fall through one of the openings, and a shark would bite my leg off. So if as long as my leg or limbs could not be on the outside, and it was magically a huge cage with a small cage in the center. Maybe $1 billion dollars. Already taxed. So that my fear is worth while.

I’m terrified of snakes. All snakes. Obviously the poisonous ones are worst. I have no idea how old I was eight, nine, ten…something like that. I was at a cousins birthday party and they thought it would be fun to hire one of those people who brings different animals, and puts them on someone in the crowd. Again I didn’t know I was scared of snakes at this age. But I was randomly picked as the person. So he started off with a centipede, non poisonous, and placed it on my wrist. That was okay. He pulled out a giant non poisonous spider and placed it on my head. That was fine. (Not anymore, Nope!!). Then he pulled out a snake to drape on my shoulders. Yeah that didn’t happen. I was done. I don’t remember what I said to him, but he took everything off of me; I wonder if I threatened him…haha! But after that moment I’ve been terrified of snakes. My most recent snake moment was my daughter went to turn off the hose and she screamed. I came running and found a baby rattlesnake just under the faucet. I checked with my neighbor who knows snakes and she told me the type. I then proceeded to have a panic attack. Thank God He was looking out for my daughter in that moment; because I don’t know what I would have done. So I don’t know if there is any amount of money that would get me to hold a snake, non poisonous. Maybe another $1 billion dollars, already taxed.

Next. A Ferris wheel. I’m terrified of heights. I remember when I was maybe fourteen. Which would make my brother ten. He wanted to go on the Ferris wheel at the fair, but he couldn’t go alone. So I went with him; since my mom was like, Nope! I didn’t know I was afraid of heights. Oh believe me I found out quickly. My poor brother did not get to enjoy that ride at all. The booth would swing with movement. So there was me yelping my head off at any tilt, or if I caught a glimpse outside the window; and my brother who wanted to look outside and enjoy himself, but couldn’t. So this one is difficult, I could maybe go on one, if my husband took charge of the kids, and I could sit in a corner with my eyes clamped shut and holding onto something so much that my hands turn white. But if not…maybe $10,000 dollars already taxed.

Speaking in public. Public speaking is impossible. I’m terrible at it. Like truly terrible. So much so that I’m questioning whether to get back into coaching, because I’m so bad. But it also terrifies me. I don’t like people staring at me. And to publicly speak you have people purposefully staring at you. Nope! Will I do it again, I don’t know. And I don’t what would have to happen to get me to try again.

I’m scared of things that won’t happen and I’m scared of things that might happen. But money is the only thing that would motivate the insanity to do something so stupid. So that my family would get money incase something happened. But see I would rather be alive than have money. So it will never happen.

The Plan

What would you do if you won the lottery?

The plan. It will happen. If I or really we won the lottery, it would just kick start the plan. But the plan will be completed with or without winning the lottery.

First my husband could quit his job. We wouldn’t have to wait to sell our house; he could just be done.

We would pay off debts because that’s normal. Since we won’t be winning the lottery, we will do this once we sell our house. Our fresh start will be just that. Fresh.

We would pack up all our stuff and start our next chapter. He wants to flip houses. Start a business with his dad. I would help with the design side of it all. I’ve always wanted to design and style houses; to me it a new way of art. This is the start of the plan.

With winning the lottery, we could buy our property and start building our end home. But since that’s not realistic we will wait until we can afford it. We will live small. Smaller than we have been; which seems crazy! But we can do if for a bit. We can live small and cheap until we can afford to buy a small house somewhere. It would be a fixer upper; that we would eventually rent or sell.

We would continue to flip. Until we could buy our big property and build our house with cash. We are not going to be doing the debt thing. Because once you start debt it just grows and grows like mold.

Once my husband believes we have made enough and invested money correctly we will be done. We will enjoy life. We won’t be going crazy with money. We will just live. If we want to flip houses it will just be a teaching moment for our kids, or if there is something shiny my husband wants to buy. Haha!

We will build or buy a house for my mom. So she doesn’t have to worry about anything. She won’t have to work. She could just live. And then my kiddos can grow up going to Grandma’s house. Which is a dream! We hope my husband’s parents live closer so they can also visit Nana and Pop Pop’s house.

Nothing special. The plan is just to invest our time and money in the beginning while we are still young, and correctly make the future we hope for possible.

I stopped saying what we would do if we won the lottery, because it’s not going to happen. We don’t play the lottery. Because as I said. We will do this plan with or without winning.

And lately I’ve been thinking, I’ve already won the lottery. I have an amazing husband. He has done so much for us to get to this point. That it’s not been easy for either of us, but we are still going strong. I have amazing kids! Even though they drive me crazy!! They are still amazing. I have the coolest mama ever! She is my best friend; still to this day. ❤️ I have great siblings and new extended family members. Family is the most important thing to me. Which is why it’s sad to live so far away from them. But with the plan, we hope to visit more often.

So really, I’ve already won the lottery. The best one to win.

Look at your life, and see if you have too?