Has your idea of what makes a good friend changed as you’ve gotten older?

Think back to your childhood…

A child runs up, “do you like puppies!?”

You answer, “yes!”

Best of friends! So simple.

Next, think like eight years old.

A kid runs up, “I’m eight years old, how about you!?”

“I’m eight too!”

Run off excitedly together! Still so simple.

Then…teenage…

….“Sup.”….

….“Sup.”…..

Friends. Haha! It seemed that way for me. We were the same age. Same sport. Same interests. You just seemed to be friends if you were both teenagers and you had similar interests. At least for me where my friend circle was my swim team.

Now, the twenties. The discovering yourself years. You don’t really know anything about yourself until you are an adult paying bills, rent, car, fuel, etc. But for me it wasn’t really making friends. It was keeping friends. By Twenty, you know if you are going to stay friends. More things need to line up. Faith, lifestyle, social settings, morals, location. I think I kept one friend. And as I said in previous posts, seemed like God kept me around non believers….so it was hard to spend time with them, since our lives did not match up.

You become picky at twenty.

My years…thirties.

I think I now choose friends with my kids in mind.

Will I like these adults around my kids? Will I like them around my husband? Will they help me in my spiritual growth as a Christian? Will they encourage my kids in their spiritual growth? Will they help me to be a better wife?

Will I desire to form friendships with these people for future days? I’ve discovered, I’m a terrible friend. I don’t think to reach out to people unless it’s a holiday or birthday. Something like that. But with my current state of life that’s all I can do. Or the once a month moms group meet up. I’m actually looking forward to the one coming up.

So definitely for me my way of making friends has drastically changed.

But I think if I walked up to a woman and asked, “do you like cake?”

And she says, “of course!”

I would probably be her friend. Haha!

Enjoy your Monday.